I have been attending the same industry conferences as John Darer for a very long time. I have stood directly across from him during dozens of discussions and I have attended many sessions where John Darer was one of the speakers.
As with all conferences a major part of going to one is getting the chance to socialize/network with others in the same industry. It is the main reason that we have them in the first place. We all want to eat good food and drink, socialize with one another and hopefully learn a few things as well.
Then there is John Darer. I can honestly say as a veteran of these conferences that EVERYONE who attends literally considers the meeting a personal and professional success if they were able to dodge having to speak or God forbid sit next to John Darer for any length of time. We all cringe when we see him walking towards us and when he leaves we all just smile at one another. Everyone single one of us consider him a vile and disgusting individual and that the industry would be a much better place without him.
For anyone who knows him personally or professionally there is no need to explain any of this. You all know what I am talking about but for those who have had the pleasure of never having to meet or speak to him the best way to explain John Darer is to compare him as our industry’s version of Kim Kardashian.
Some people are fascinated with Kim Kardashian (and John Darer) because they are so completely clueless and insane that we have to watch what stupid thing they are going to do next. It is human nature to stop and look at an accident and John and Kim are both accidents waiting to happen. They are both Megalomaniacs that have forgotten how to act rationally and just like reality TV we all tune in for their next disaster.
Take for instance Rhonda Bentzen and John Darer. For quite a long time they were very good friends. There was even a rumor that they had slept together at one of the conferences years ago. Then Rhonda made the mistake of disagreeing with one of John’s outrageous blog statements. John Darer attacked her ruthlessly for over a year until she had no choice left but to sue him.
Rhonda Bentzen did absolutely nothing wrong but to disagree with a single post that John Darer wrote. That ASSHOLE (sorry but there is no other word for him) tortured her over a simple disagreement. Over the next year John Darer wrote on his blog that Rhonda Bentzen was an “Insensitive Trogolyte”, “a Wingding”, “a Factoring Beeyatch”, “A Pimp”, “A Factoring Madame”, “the type of person who pisses into her companions shoes under the table”, “unethical”, “fat” and “stupid”.
Most of us have met Rhonda Bentzen on multiple occasions. She is a true professional and an extremely nice person who never deserved any of this. She has young children that relied on her income and for no reason John Darer attacked her and anyone in our industry who continued to deal with her until she had virtually nothing left.
As a veteran in the same industry as John Darer I would like to say that I am sorry to all the people that John Darer has attacked for no reason whatsoever. John Darer is a very sick man who is clearly insane in such a manner that he will destroy someone both personally and professional for no reason whatsoever.
JOHN WHEN WE SEE YOU WALKING TOWARDS US WE ALL GIVE YOU A FAKE SMILE BUT KNOW THIS WHEN YOU WALK AWAY WE ALL GENUINELY SMILE IN RELIEF AND WHEN WE SEE YOUR NUMBER ON OUR CALLER-ID (203-561-6560) EVERY SINGLE ONE OF YOUR ASSOCIATES/FRIENDS JUST WISH THAT YOU WOULD LEAVE US ALONE! JOHN I CAN SAY THIS UNANIMOUSLY FOR EVERYONE IN OUR BUSINESS! NO ONE LIKES YOU OR RESPECTS YOU OR YOUR WORK! YOU ARE A SAVAGE SICK INDIVIDUAL AND YOUR MERE PRESENCE IN OUR INDUSTRY IS AN EMBARRASSMENT TO ALL OF US!